Break Through the Fear and Start Setting Boundaries w/Val Selby

Every one of us has had that moment where someone in our lives stepped over the proverbial line. They did something or said something that was the last straw. That was probably a pivotal point for many of you…that time when you realized a boundary was crossed. But what if you live your life with no boundaries, and you’re such a people-pleaser that even when people go too far, you sit back and let them?

On this episode, my guest is Val Selby. Val had horrible boundaries with a ‘friend’ who constantly took her for granted and was always the receiver in the friendship, not the giver. When she decided to set boundaries with her, it didn’t go over too well. But Val did it — she set her boundaries and stood her ground. Today, Val still believes in having boundaries, and she has learned to embrace her bold new life.

Val is an empowerment coach to midlife women with an empty nest or a nest soon to be empty. She takes a stand that it’s time for you to take your turn. With a mix of encouraging words and honesty you will see how you are treating yourself and allowing others to treat you.

She has been a sports coach and previously a personal trainer for over a decade before realizing that one of the big things that set her apart as a coach was the mindset work. She now coaches women in life and business through the roadblocks that come up with change.

Val’s favorite quote is:

“Well-behaved women seldom make history.” ~Laurel Thatcher Ulrich

“If there is somebody, and you are complaining or cringing, or ignoring their emails or their text messages, that is the number one flag that there is something broke that you need to address.” ~Val Selby

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“There are hard conversations that you have to have, and part of those conversations can lead to super amazing relationships.” ~Val Selby

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On The Show . . .

On this episode, Val and I chat about:

What are boundaries
Setting boundaries for yourself
How the hard conversations can lead to amazing relationships
Boundary creepers
How to identify toxic people in your life
How to own the fact that you may not be for everyone, and be okay with that
. . . and more

“How many times has this person asked about you and listened to what you had to say if there were issues? Is it a one-way street or a two-way street, and why are you holding onto it?” ~Val Selby

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“Take a look at those good relationships that you have in your life and write down a list of why you like to be around them.” ~Val Selby

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Where to Find Val Selby:
Website: Your Bold Life | Email: Val Selby | Instagram: @valselbycoach | Facebook: Your Bold Life
Podcast: Your Bold Life | Pinterest: Val Selby Coach

“Midlife-A-Go-Go the podcast!” is hosted by Valerie Albarda

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Music Credits:
“My Street” by Lee Rosevere Attribution-NonCommercial 3.0 International (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc/3.0/)

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